2021 Recap

2021 was a doozy. After a very sad and quiet 2020, 2021 brought on the vaccines and allowed people to be cautiously optimistic about the future. Two variants and 800k deaths later, we’re still in this weird limbo. Despite this, I had a relatively momentous year, personally. We bought a house, my husband and I both got new jobs, and we’re seriously considering baby #2.

Career change

I am switching jobs after 2.5 years at my current company. I have an excellent group of people that I work with that I am very sad to say goodbye to, but I am ready to work on consumer-facing products again. BTW, this is purely a lateral move.

All the projects I worked on were really challenging, fun, and interesting – but after 2.5 years, I am realizing that it has become a giant black hole in my portfolio. Because the nature of my work is highly proprietary and contains sensitive info, I literally can’t show anything.

“Why don’t you want a higher title and have more $$$”??

Pro Tip: In the world of the tech rat race, title doesn’t mean much, it’s all about how much you ask when you negotiate, and how often you move around once you reach a certain professional level.*

*It really depends on the company, TBH.

One of the best pieces of professional advice I’ve ever received was that blind loyalty to your company is one of the most detrimental things you can do yourself, professionally. There are so many statistics out there that have put those who rose up the ranks internally, climbed the company ladder slowly, ultimately made much less, and had less progress in the same span of time than those who moved around more. Especially in the current job labor market. There’s always someone out there willing to pay you more, you just have to go find it.

I can’t believe it’s taken me this long to realize this – as an individual contributor, I don’t need a bigger title to make more money. In fact, I have a lesser title than I did 3 years ago and I am making 2x more. I actually enjoy working as an IC and being in charge of my own work. One of the things I realized very early on once I reached a more senior level of my career was that I hated managing people. I hated dealing with C-suite politics, I felt like every time I had to take time out of my work to deal with other people, it slowed me down and made me less effective at my own work. Even though I was pretty good at managing people part of it, it just wasn’t my passion. I don’t mind doing it as a favor for my colleagues every now and then but once it became a regular thing, I was not a happy camper.

All in all, 2021 has been a very eye-opening year for me professionally. I’ve finally found that balance at this stage in my career where I can still hustle and do the things I want to do, without having some crazy arbitrary goal that doesn’t mean anything to me.

Seriously considering baby #2 after swearing I was one and done

Our first child is this perfect little guy who is just the cutest, happiest kid ever. He gives love and affection freely and is always full of joy (most of the time). To us, he is perfection.

Some really irrational part of me is saying, how on earth are you going to top that? You literally cannot make another perfect baby like him. Just quit while you’re ahead. But I know that voice inside my head is irrational, and maybe I am using that voice as an excuse. What I am truly afraid of is the:

  1. sleeping 2-3 hour intervals for the first 6 months
  2. endless pumping and cleaning of pump equipment
  3. sleep training
  4. maintaining a feeding schedule, cleaning and measuring everything
  5. the whole birthing process and recovery
  6. not being able to sleep on my back for 6 months
  7. getting huge again
  8. projectile vomiting (during 1st, 2nd and 3rd trimester)
  9. hormonal acne
  10. and the additional inevitable financial burden on myself and my husband for the next 30 years…

If only I was 26 instead of 36…
I’ve flip-flopped a few times on this issue. In my twenties, I was a firm believer that I did not want any children. When my husband and I first met, we agreed that if we don’t have children, it’s quite alright, as long as we can have as many pyrs as we can legally obtain. As soon as I hit 30, that narrative changed. We went from no kids, to maybe. That maybe was a tricky one. See, when I was 32, we decided that we can try for a year, and if we are successful, we will have one. He was game. Well, as soon as we tried, I became pregnant. But my pregnancy did not last, however, and I had a miscarriage. It was a very difficult experience (I truly believe that bereavement should include pregnancy loss but that’s another story for another time), but I was ready to get back on the horse as soon as I was able. As soon as my hormone levels were back to normal again, we tried again. Within two months, I was pregnant again with our current child. The first few weeks were great – but because of my first pregnancy, we didn’t tell anyone for a while. One of the first people that found out was my mom. I am normally a pretty active person and I am always doing something around the house if I wasn’t working on the computer. There were days where I literally had no energy to do anything.

I was just laying on the couch looking like an absolute vege, my mom walked past me and was like

“What on earth is wrong with you?”

“I am exhausted”

“why? you didn’t do anything”

I didn’t say anything for what felt like a minute…

She looked at me pensively, and then suddenly, her eyes rounded and her entire face changed,

“Are you pregnant???”

I continue being silent

Her facial express changed again, this time to that worst happy poker face ever.

“Alright I’ll leave you alone, just lay there and rest up.”

If I was that exhausted 3 years ago, I don’t know how I am going to deal with this one.

We bought a house

It’s STILL a crazy market right now. Some people think it’s going to crash and they’ll be able to afford something cheap again, I say there’s no way in hell that’s going to happen. If anything, it will finally plateau, interest rates will go back up, but the housing market will not go down. Why? Just look at the job sector. If you have a healthy unemployment rate as well as increasing wages in multiple sectors, housing isn’t going to go down. People will just have to move to more affordable places (if they can’t afford certain areas), but the desirable locations will still be popular, and expensive. Our house isn’t quite done yet, but it’ll be interesting when it is.

Jalen Hurts as The Hurt Locker

My husband is obsessed with Fantasy Football. His QB this year is Jalen Hurts, so naturally, he wanted to name his team The Hurt Locker. Because his wife is a magician on Photoshop, he rarely asks for me to photoshop things for him, but he really NEEDED this. Jalen Hurts as Jeremy Renner in The Hurt Locker for his fantasy football team avatar. This took me about 3 minutes with a little of masking and brushing.

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Jalen Hurts in The Hurt Locker

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Disclaimer: I do not own any of this.

3-Minute Makeup Guide for Web Conferencing

The unofficial but definitive makeup guide to get your face ready for Zoom in 3 minutes flat. Written by a former makeup artist AND a techie.

If there had to be a person to write a short, concise and effective makeup tutorial on how to get your face ready with the least amount of product and maximum results for web conferencing, I honestly can’t think of a better person other than myself. I use to be a makeup artist, and I work in tech – so I know a thing or two about hardware and software technical limitations and makeup application. In this tutorial, I am going to provide you a list of makeup product that you can keep in ziplock sandwich size bag next to your desk as your emergency Zoom makeup kit.

Before I started writing this, I did a quick search on the internet, and most of the stuff I found were WAY abstract and they all used unrealistic examples. Especially the youtube videos. I don’t really want to sit there and watch a 20 min tutorial on how to do something that I should be done with in 3 mins. Honestly, there’s a lot we can hide behind our computer cameras. Before we start – we need to determine a few things:

  1. What platform are you conferencing on? Is it Microsoft Teams, Zoom, Google Hangout, Slack, or another form of proprietary software?
  2. What device are you using for the conference?
  3. What is your internet connection?
  4. And lastly… how much time do you have to spend in this conference?

Why does any of that matter? Depending on these variables, we will determine how hard you’ll have to beat your face to get it webcam ready. The silver-lining in having slower internet speed and mediocre webcams/older equipments is that you have to work less for your face to look presentable. If you have top notch fiber for internet and you have a baller webcam, well, 3 mins to do your makeup might just have to stretch to 5 mins because you’ll need just a bit more time to flush out the details.

  1. The Platform: These different platforms all have different codec – and it greatly depends on the connection you have in conjunction with how many people are conferencing. Zoom and Google Hangout tends to have the better video codec (meaning better picture), while Microsoft Teams and Slack tend to greatly dependent upon the connection you have. While Hangout and Slack tend to hog up more bandwidth to produce better image, it greatly declines in quality as soon as your connection quality deteriorates. Zoom has a better codec that can spit out better image with less bandwidth, but it also has its limitations. Therefore, what platform you’re using to do your web conferencing is an important factor to consider.
  2. The Equipment: If you’re running a Macbook Air from 2012, your camera is probably going to be fuzzy with some details at best in comparison to someone who is running a Blackmagic Design Pocket Cinema Camera 4K that can stream in full 4K over fiber. The level of effort we are talking about here greatly depends on how well your own camera resolution can display the details of your face. Do a quick selfie with whatever software/software you are using, and take a screenshot. That will be the “best” condition since you’re not streaming over a connection, and whatever you can see and don’t see in that image, will be the most detail you’ll have to achieve/maintain with your makeup. This along with your connection speed will be your greatest determining factor in how much time and detail you’ll need to spend on beating your face to get it camera ready.*
  3. The Connection: Are you running 1Gbps fiber for yourself or are you stealing your neighbor’s 200Mbp wifi from Comcast that he also happens to share with his 3 kids that are also doing remote learning? This makes a huge difference – again, the better the internet connection, the better the picture quality. If you’re sharing with other people over wifi and you don’t pay more than $50/a month for your internet, chances are, you have ok wifi, but not good enough to stream in really high bitrate, and that’s actually beneficial to you because you’ll have to work less. This along with hardware equipment, will determine how much work you’ll have to spend on your face.
  4. The Time: Are you conferencing for 30mins or you’re doing a marathon working session that could potentially go into 3 hours? With the 3 min limit I set on the makeup, I aim for one thing and one thing only – speed. When it comes to speed though however, we lose one thing that normally application tends to come with, which is the ability to makeup last longer. If you have to do a longer session, I highly recommend keeping a mirror nearby for quick touchup just incase something runs. But honestly, I think you’ll be ok. This will be least important factor.

*One thing I highly recommend against is using your phone as the video conferencing camera of choice. Reason being is that you’ll not only need to find a stationary place for your phone, otherwise it’ll make it difficult for others to view you with all the jostling and movement, it also tends to be the least professional. You have less control over angle, lighting, and connection, making this the least predictable and hard to troubleshoot to get your routine down.

Now let’s get down to products. Keep in mind, we’re not here to get you ready for the red carpet, so we’re talking about efficiency and speed.

  1. A high-coverage compact powder or liquid foundation – depending on your skin type, with an easy to apply brush.
  2. An eyebrow pencil with brush attachment
  3. Two neutral eyeshadows of your choice, one accent color, one transitional, OR an eyeliner. Pick one or the other, you don’t need both.
  4. A lipstick color you’re comfortable wearing for an interview.
  5. A bronzer and a bronzer brush.

BUT WAIT! What about mascara, highlighters and shit? It won’t matter, because it won’t show up on the image. Unless you want to put on a set of dense falsies in under a minute, chances are whatever you put on your lids other than an accent color and eyeliner, it won’t show up, and it won’t make a difference other than take up more of your time.

Best type of powder/foundation for intense quick coverage

Two things that will show up in zoom no matter how crappy your connection is and how shitty your equipment will be: blemish and shine. That’s why we need products that have high coverage, and extremely easy to blend with to get the job done in 3 minutes flat. With a quick one layer coverage of your face with these high-coverage, high pigmented formulas, and it’ll eliminate most of your blemishes and skin imperfections from the camera. Best of all, you can keep it around for when you need to go outside to brave people again after quarantine ends.

Best Powder Foundation

MAC Studio Fix Powder Plus Foundation: This is the gold standard for medium to high coverage. I can literally cover my whole face, breakouts and pimples included with 3-4 swipes of the pan in 30 seconds flat. This stuff covers well, and stays on relatively long without any makeup setting sprays or primers.

Best Liquid Foundation

If you’re a fan of liquid foundation, look no further than this bad boy, Laura Mercier Silk Creme Oil-Free Photo Edition Foundation. This foundation has the best finish, super high pigment, and has concealer like coverage that is easy to apply, and has a gorgeous oil-free silk like finish. This is a personal favorite of mine.

Best Foundation Brush

I do not recommend using a beauty blender or any type of sponge for the purpose of this tutorial. While I personally love the beauty sponge and it’s a wonderful tool, it requires way too long of dab time, and because we’re trying to get this under 3 mins, aint no body got time fo dat. What you will need instead is a non-flat top, medium size soft rounded kabuki brush that is easy to hold, picks up a lot of product, and doesn’t take up a whole lot of real estate on your desk, and it works for both liquid and powder foundation. This Docolor Kabuki Brush will do the trick. Best of all, it’s only $7.

Best Eyebrow Pencil

I lowkey horde this pencil on my spare time whenever I see it go on sale. Yes it is that good, and I am obsessed with it: Lancome le Crayon Poudre Powder Pencil in either Dark Blonde or Taupe. It is the most forgiving and easiest to apply eyebrow pencil I have ever come across. The finish is absolutely phenomenal so you really can’t make mistakes with this guy. And the best of all, it comes with a little brush that can help you shape and groom your brow.

Here are two more affordable versions that’s also very good that I would use in a pinch if I didn’t have the le Crayon: L’Oreal Paris Makeup Brow Stylist Designer Eyebrow Pencil. Now if you’re a stickler for mechanical eyebrow pencils and you hate anything that requires a pencil sharpener, Nature’s Republic Auto Eyebrow Pencil is also excellent. A little less forgiving than the le Crayon, but still an excellent product overall. All of three products I recommended comes with a nice little grooming brush on the opposite end.

Best Neutral Compact Eyeshadows

So why do we need a transitional color and an accent color you might ask? The accent color is nice and all, but terrible blending does show up on screen, no matter how shitty your camera or connections are. Therefore, you will need that transitional color to soften up the blow.

If you are looking to add a little dimension to your 2D face, a few quick swipe of the eyeshadow will not hurt and it will be noticeable. Honestly, any shade of eyeshadow that’s a shade or two deeper than your skin color will work perfect as a transitional color. You can decide whatever accent color you like, but I tend to prefer browns because it’s just so universality flattering and easy to use.

NARS Duo eyeshadow
Maybelline Eye Shadow Quad

If you got a little extra blunt to put up, get the NARs Duo in Key Largo. It’s got exactly what we need to get the job done, and it’s a quality product so a little will go a long way

If you’re looking to go with the budget route, Maybelline New York Expert Wear Eyeshadow Quads in Natural Smokes will do just nicely. With this however, I would only probably use the “base” and “lid” colors. If the lid color isn’t dark enough, I’d dip a little into the other two darker colors to get a little bit more color out of it. Eitherway, you can’t go wrong with this guy and price.

Best Eyeliner

Pencil/mechanical eyeliner: I’ve used this drugstore brand eyeliner for years and it lasts forever. The automatic pencil makes my life easy and it lasts forever on my lids. For the price point and performance, you cannot beat this guy: The Maybelline Unstoppable Eyeliner. Eyeliners will show up on screen, granted if you’re doing it more than just the tiniest and thinnest of a line. Adding a quick eyeliner around your eyes will help brighten up your eyes and give it a more alert look. Combined with a little bit of bronzer, you’re golden.

UZU Eye Opening Eyeliner

Liquid eyeliner: I recently discovered this UZU Eye Opening Liner during a trip to Tokyo where it was recommended to me by one of the nice Japanese lady that worked at the counter in one of the shopping malls right by the Shinjuku station. Thanks to a globalized market, we can easily buy it pretty much anywhere in the world. It completely changed the felt tip liquid eyeliner game for me. The problem I’ve always struggled with liquid eyeliners that came in a pen form is that they always had trouble with pigment output and the flow was inconsistent. Sometimes when you have a lot of product already on your lid and you try to use a liquid eyeliner, it’s pretty much useless. This product however, is amazing. It comes out very consistently, and the tip is super easy to control, and it stays on forever. Did I mention the pigment is super dense? However, if I am doing an underwater shoot or doing bridal makeup for an outdoor wedding at 115ºF, the MAC Chromaline in BlackBlack (discontinued/out of stock) is what I would use. But the problem with gel eyeliner is that you need a really solid liner brush that has an extra step of maintenance attached to it (which is another story for another time). We’re avoiding that.

Best Lipstick

Again, we’re going for easy and forgiving coverage, something that if we mess up on the corner in the rush of application, it won’t leave a stain or ruin the effect. Before Kylie Jenner’s lipstick kits and every other social media influencer has their own lipstick/makeup line of their own to make tutorials over on Youtube, I was already obsessed with this NYX Soft Matte Lip Cream. It’s super easy to apply, has a very forgiving and creamy (but not heavy) silky texture, and perfectly sized for this occasion. I personally own a Budapest, Milan, Leon, Zurich, and San Paulo – I recommend any one of those colors. You can layer it on for more color or blot it with a tissue for a barely there look.

Now if you’re looking to be a little bit more bougie and want to buy something really fancy, I have recently become obsessed with the Guerlain Rouge G Sheer Shine Lipstick Shade in 688 Raspberry. It such a beautiful color and finish, and best of all, you get to pick your own decked out lipstick case. It literally feels like you’re swiping the most luxurious product on your lips. The sheer finish is extremely flattering, and will give you that pinch of healthy lovely color without looking like you just slapped on some heavy color lipstick right before the meeting.

Best Bronzer

Not only will a good bronzer be able to add a bit of liveliness and color to your face, it can also help create contours and dimension over the screen when applied correctly (although in great haste). If you’re really looking to do a shortcut and skipping the eyeshadow step all together, your bronzer can also double as an eyeshadow if you’re in a real pinch for time. Again, we are looking for high blendability, consistency, and ease of use while picking a universally flattering colors.

I tend to favor MAC Powder Blush in Blunt, in their Sheertone finish. Unlike most blushes in the market, which doesn’t really describe how heavy/light the application can be, this one is very specific in its finish, hence the Sheertone name. With most other blushes in the market, sometimes it can be like drawing your face with a sharpie, while other times it feels like you’re applying nothing to the face. This particular finish (keep in mind MAC has 5+ finishes in their powder blush line) is a winner for what we need it for, and it’s extremely flattering. That’s why I am not even recommending any other products for this category. Not only can you use it as a blush, you can also use it to contour your cheekbones, nose and chin. Even if you are super pale, this product is super easy to glide on and provides just the sheerest layer of much needed color.

I am not recommending any liquid or cream bronzer because of two very important reasons: blending tends to take longer with cream or liquid formulas, and if you’re using your finger, the product will end up on your keyboard and mouse, and no one wants that.

How long you should spend on your face:

Eyebrows: 30 seconds to 1 minute. Don’t try to get it perfect. As long as you have the shape and color, no one is going to notice the faded edges or the accented arches. Shape is everything. Once you have the shape down, don’t worry about the blending. That’s why it’s important to go for a lighter color instead of a darker one. The lighter color pencils tend to be more forgiving and gives you a lot more control in a pinch of time.

Eyeliner or shadow: 30 seconds to 1 minutes. After applying transitional color first to your lid and crease, apply the lid colors. Start from outside of your eyes and work towards the inner corner of your eyes. Less is more – all we’re trying to do here is give your eyes a little bit of color.

Lips: 30 seconds max.

Cheeks, (and contouring): 15 seconds to 1 minute. If you got time to burn, then contour away my friend! If you don’t, a few swipe at the cheeks and along your jaw line and under chin to create that slimmed down look is all you need. The camera will pick up the subtle changes in color, but not enough to notice that it was painted on.

Face: 30 seconds to 2 minutes depending on equipment and connection. Your whole face shouldn’t take you more than 30 seconds to cover with a few quick swipe of the product. What about product lines, ears, and neck?? Don’t worry about it. If you got blemish or problem area, focus on that a little bit more by doing circular dabbing motion with the brush to get it really covered. While you might still notice in your mirror, chances are it won’t show up unless you are using a really high resolution camera and have really good connection. If that’s the case, then you should probably spend another minute or so to blend everything in.

I hope you have enjoyed this post, and let me know if you have any tips or trick of your own in the comments section, thanks!

The Best of Memes from Game of Thrones Season 8 episode 3 [spoiler alert!]

Some of the best memes I’ve found from episode 3 of season 8 Game of Thrones.

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Whoever did the planning and wasting the Dothraki army like that was an idiot imo

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How to blow a 3-1 lead:

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Cliffs are a reoccurring theme

Back in April when Tyler proposed, he did it at the Cliffs of the Moher. More specifically, the O’Brien’s Tower which is a much safe spot (no chance of that 50mph gust blowing the ring away, sorta) at about 700ft right above the Irish sea. The parking lot attendant told us that we had a 20% chance of seeing the cliffs sunny.  I was a bit worried since I traveled all the way to Ireland to see these cliffs and would’ve been really bummed if it was covered in mist and fog.  Luckily, as soon as we hiked to the top of the cliffs, the sun decided to show up after all.



Six months later, we did our engagement photos on top of the Taft Point, which overlooks the Yosemite Valley, at about 7700 ft.  We got there on a misty/rainy/foggy day with a little bit of a sun.  So when the sun started to set, the fog and mist made the sunset looked like the sky was on fire.  Almost everyone I’ve shown these photos has commented that they’ve got a bit of LOTR feel to it, and one of them even pointed out that it looked almost like we’re on the quest to get the One Ring back to Mordor, ha! It was a bit of a hike carrying all of our clothes and whatnot up and down the cliffs. It did get a little scary and sketchy as the photographer kept trying to urge us to get closer to the cliffs.  Despite not being generally afraid of heights — I finally said fuck it to the heels and kept my hiking boots on when we were traversing the fissures and cliff rocks.  After all, I did have a floor-length dress on.



Not wanting to risk the possibility of “third time’s a charm”, we’ve decided to conduct our ceremony at the safety of our own home with family come December.  I still haven’t decided if I want a photographer at our ceremony yet… but I do like how these cliff photos turned out. However, I think we are done with cliffs for the remainder of the year.

I am officially a hermit

So I haven’t done laundry for clothes in like a month. Why does this correlate to me being a hermit? Read on to find out.

Tyler has done a few washes since the last time I did a wash but it’s mostly his own stuff. Although I’ve washed plenty other household textiles meanwhile so don’t be too grossed out. I am talking about the laundering of clothes. Yet I haven’t even come close to running out of clothes to wear, and my closet racks and hangers are still tightly packed — although I am running low on the thinner stretchy pants/shorts. Other than that, I think I can keep going for another month, ha!

Also, I’ve rolled into work in some questionable ugly stuff as well. And not a single person at my work has noticed. I am talking about intentionally wearing extremely ugly stuff like flesh-tone mom-style high-waisted (not the cute kind) elastic band sweat pants and poorly made stained white T-shirt. And not a soul has even looked at me twice when I did these intentional outfits to see how much I can get away with. I guess there are perks to being a hermit nowadays and only have to work at the office twice a week with a bunch of dudes whose interests are only at beer, scantly-clad women and cars (in no particular order). I guess men are quite oblivious to these kinds of things, or they were just too nice to say something about it. I am willing to bet $1000 it’s the former.

So being a hermit has its perks. Not going out means not having to dress up and go out and find an activity and consequently spend money for thus food/entertainment. I still go grocery shopping but you can wear a garbage bag for that and no one would notice. Not only I get to save money by not going out as much, I also do WAY less laundry and save California some more water lol.

Side note, I’ve converted one of our bathroom tubs into laundry basket. Not only I don’t have to clean that shower/tub anymore (now we only shower/bathe in one bathroom instead of both like before), I also have WAY more space to go before I have to do laundry. Last time when I cleaned out the tub I had about 5 loads worth. I wonder if I can beat my previous record. Someone please DARE me.

Annoying habits of people you live with

No matter how many times I try to kindly remind the people I live with that I am not a work-for-free maid, they still forget. In our particular household, I am constantly picking up after other people and it just drives me bonkers. I am at my wit’s end trying to figure out how to properly communicate with a teenager and an oblivious significant other who is just absolutely clueless about things.  It’s not that I don’t have better things to do – in fact I do, I just can’t stand it sometimes when people leave a mess.  Nothing also frustrates me more that after a long day of work — while everyone else can just sit on the couch and play with their phone, I am stuck cleaning. I wanted to be cool and looked for internet memes to share with them but couldn’t find any that was all encompassing.  (I am not sure at this point whether this is me being passive aggressive or just not giving a fig anymore)  I’ve decided on making a list and sticking this on the fridge tomorrow.  Please feel free to share on the comments below about what you think about my list.  And if you love this list, you can download either a PDF version here or an editable WORD version here.


Putting empty boxes/containers/bottles back in the fridge/cabinet. Because finding that entire carton of milk only had 2 drops in it is awesome!

Leaving dirty dishes/empty glasses around the house.  Because a tiny little magical fairy aka the maid that doesn’t exist will pick it up and clean it for me.

Using cellphone at the dinner table. Let me read about something stupid on the internet instead of talking to people I am having dinner with.

Leaving a bunch of food/debris in the sink after using the sink. Because a tiny little magical fairy aka the maid that doesn’t exist just LOVE picking up all that gross crap from the sink that you just poured out of your bowl. YUM!

Not cleaning up the oven/stove after use. Because the next person who must use it just LOVE seeing all the grease and gunk that splattered all over the place! Maybe the fairy will do it for me?

Hair in the sink and bathroom areas. Because making other people gag is your goal/endgame here.


Stealing chargers/moving them and not returning them to their original spots. Well next time when you have a dying phone, it won’t be where you thought it was!

After using the couch, not putting the pillows back in place and not folding the blankets. Because a tiny little magical fairy aka the maid that doesn’t exist will do it for me eventually!

Using other’s peoples things without asking and not putting it back. Please, help yourself… I love it when other people touch and use my shit!

Taking long showers. Hot water is unlimited!

Not hanging up the towel after a shower. Everyone loves a wet, moist, damp towel.

Leaving the toilet seat up.  Why, I do that all the time because I am fucking stupid!

Not replacing a nearly empty/completely empty toilet roll.  Who doesn’t love wiping their bare dirty asscracks with hands?


Working moms are crushing it, and they have higher productivity on career average

Wish I shared it on Mother’s Day instead but nonetheless, it’s worthy of a blog post despite my typical laziness.
While I respect everyone’s choices on whether having or not having kids is for them, the topic of working mom struggles has come up many times in previous conversations between me and my friends ––– particularly how sometimes employers might use that to discriminate against promoting/hiring them. Even though these findings are derived from a single study and the sample size is very restricted to academia, the results of this published research are astounding and should be brought up anytime someone makes a sexist remark about working moms not being able to be as productive or committed as those who don’t have kids.
This research found that women in academia with 2+ more children are more productive at work than those with 1 child or childfree in overall career average. They are even more productive than their childfree male counterparts. However, during their children/child’s preteen years, there is a significant loss in productivity (9.5% first kid, +12.5% second kid, +11% third kid), attributing to average 33% loss in productivity first four years, however once the child reaches teenage years they pretty crush all other demographics. They crush it so hard that their career average ends up being much higher than all other demographics. So pretty much once your kids are no longer asking you for rides, the women excels significantly professional career, more so than those who are childfree in both genders. Some obvious statistics: Women who have children between the ages 30-34 are significantly less affected by the “motherhood effect” than those who have children before the age of 30 (better family planning, financial security, significant other involved, etc)
All in all… mothers of at least two children are, on average, more productive than mothers of only one child, and moms in general are more productive than women who don’t have kids. Fathers of at least two children are also more productive than fathers of one child and childfree men. However, towards the end of the career – men with no children did perform better than men with one. Also another interesting factor, women who have children, have exceptionally highly productive years right before they have kids. Which makes sense because they want to reach a certain professional level (and they work extra hard to get there) before having kids. You may read more about this research here:
Working moms are truly superheroes that don’t wear capes.